Physiology tutorial

 

Techniques to help you overcome fear and access confidence.

 

The mental techniques I use and teach to help overcome a neurotic fear of confrontation and violence fall into two main categories: in the moment techniques and pre event preparation.

Notice I’ve defined specifically a “neurotic” fear of confrontation and violence, whereby you find yourself over thinking, projecting, over reacting, behaving like a paranoid nutcase and potentially actually creating incidents through a phobic “OVER RESPONSE”. I am NOT talking about the natural aversion to risk and endangerment, as this is desirable and healthy.

“In the moment” techniques are things you can do before and after a verbal or physical confrontation that help you to manage your mental and emotional state and keep you safer and more able to access your abilities. As we know a panicked or overly stressed individual cannot access the full potential of their intelligence, their decision making capabilities or their physical skill.

“Pre Event Preparation” are the mental conditioning and long term self hypnosis or visualisation practises that help you diminish neurotic fear and access desirable states in a conflict like calm, confidence and cold aggression.

That is not to say “in the moment” techniques are “quick fixes” that do not require practise. THEY ARE NOT. They need diligent self disciplined drilling over time. As with any skill, do not seek the “magic results”. Go for building a solid foundation.

Controlling your physiology is one of the most powerful, fastest “in the moment techniques” I know of for managing your state.

The principle is simple:

WHERE THE BODY GOES THE MIND AND EMOTIONS WILL FOLLOW.

Put another way, if you move your body like a happy person it is very likely your state will change in a direction whereby you feel “happier”. It’s all very subjective I know, but trust me it’s powerful.

What does this mean? Different emotional states affect the body in myriad subtle ways. Breathing, tonality, amount and tempo of facial and body gesture, where and how your eyes move, posture, stance, even how close you stand to people when you talk.

Don’t turn this into a dry intellectual exercise resulting in analysis paralysis. Ask yourself: how do I stand when I feel “X”?

Let’s use “confident” as an example of emotional state “X”. How do you stand when you feel confident? Would you lean forward or back? Chin tilted up or down? Confident eye movement?

Does any of this sound far fetched? Think about people you have observed. Do they not move their eyes differently when confident as opposed to terrified? Give this some thought where your eyes move ALONE has a massive impact on your emotional state and even what information you can access.

Want an example? Spell the word “schizophrenic” out loud, without looking at the screen. TRY IT NOW.

Did you notice your eyes moved up? Maybe even looked at the ceiling?

Can you spell difficult words, recall phone numbers or other specific hard to remember details without looking away from the person you are talking to?

All these things TOGETHER count and are very powerful. Study this deeply.

IF you are trying to access a state you have not yourself experienced much of then MODEL someone who does.

How does “X” stand when he is feeling confident? Does his voice change pitch? If I stand like that and talk like that do I feel more or less confident? Is this useful? Etc

There are no hard and fast rules and this is more art than science.

As all good applied psychology is.

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